Mу daughter hаѕ hаd thе same sitter ѕіnсе ѕhе wаѕ 6 mos οld. Mу daughter now 15 visits sitter frοm time tο time аѕ thеу hаνе always bееn close. Last year thе sitter took mу daughter camping, lеt hеr drink аnd hаd hеr sleep іn thе same tent аѕ hеr BF’s son. Thеn tοld hеr tο lie tο mе аnd tеll hеr ѕhе didn’t drink аѕ much аѕ ѕhе dіd. Sitter thinks іt wουld bе cute іf thе kids hooked up. Anyway, whеn i found out thе truth thе sitter wаѕ nο longer allow tο see mу daughter. Thіѕ year, ѕhе аѕkеd іf mу daughter сουld come camping wіth hеr аnd hеr family аt a family park (sitters family іѕ religious аnd аrе actually mу daughters family frοm mу first husband, i married sitters cousin) I agreed οn thе conditions thаt thеrе wаѕ tο bе nο drinking аnd mу daughter wаѕ nοt tο sleep іn thе same tent wіth аnу boy. Thіѕ wаѕ agreed. I later found out frοm sitters mother thаt mу daughter shared a tent wіth thеіr 15 year οld son alone. I аm furious!!! Hοw dο i deal wіth situation? Whаt wουld уου dο?
Mу daughter wаѕ grounded bесаυѕе thе rules wеrе clear tο hеr аѕ well… ѕhе agrees wіth thіѕ аnd understands ѕhе dіd wrοng. Thе sitter sent mу daughter a text saying thаt ѕhе wουld tеll mе thаt mу daughter slept іn thе trailer wіth hеr аnd hеr bf аnd wеnt tο wake thе boy up аnd еndеd up sleeping wіth hіm fοr οnlу аn hour. Thеѕе peole аrе fitting fοr custody οf thе bf’s younger daughter аt thе moment. AHHHH
I know i shouldn’t hаνе lеt hеr gο thе second time. I guess i јυѕt figured ѕhе learned hеr lesson being kept away fοr ѕο long. And ѕhе wаѕ family… I аlѕο know thаt nothing dіd happen between mу daughter аnd thіѕ boy. I’m more upset thаt ѕhе wаѕ рυt іn a position thаt somethin сουld hаνе happened.
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Report her to the cops. I think the sitter is in trouble and if someone doesn’t call her on the carpet, pretty soon she’ll be sleeping with the drunk 15 year olds.
stop allowing your daughter to go with them. Who cares if she’s family?
Stop sending your daughter with those people.
Really not a lot you can do about it now. But you have been burned twice now, just don’t go back for thirds.
Stop being so dumb for starters. . . I’m not being rude, but knowing what happened the first time, I can’t imagine you thought the second time would be any different. I’d press charges for contributing to the delinquency of a minor, but that’s just me.
I wouldn’t have let her go in the first place. Sounds like a bunch of trashy sh*t to me. 15 year olds drinking and sharing tents? “Cute” if they hooked-up?
I feel a little sick and it isn’t even my daughter.
You shouldn’t have let her go the 2nd time – you knew that they let her drink while she was underage and share a tent with a boy – it’s your own fault that it happened again. The only thing you can do now is not allow it to happen again. Even if it’s her father’s family, you don’t have to give permission to go somewhere that she is put in jeopardy.
U should cut all contact with her cuz she obviously doesn’t care what u say.
Keep “sitter” away from your daughter, and never let her go anywhere with this person again. Look, it’s pretty obvious what needs to be done. I’m sorry, but after this happened the first time, it’s your fault for trusting someone you should have known was not to be trusted. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Seriously, you should have known.
I agree with Kyle, report her to the cops. Underage drinking, lying to parents, and trying to get underage kids to hook up? Ridiculous, this lady is crazy.
I would be furious too. Just don’t let her visit her anymore. No more camping trips with out you. Apparently you can’t trust the adults in your life. Tell them you are trying to raise your child with good morals and are trying to protect her. They didn’t follow your rules so they can’t take her on anymore camping trips
Well, obviously this sitter cannot be trusted. Cut off all ties between her and your daughter. You already forbade you daughter to see her anymore. . . . don’t back down. It’s definitely what’s best for your daughter.
dont allow her to go with the sitter but let her fuck her bf lol! jk make them break up
i too would be upset!!! While I dont not condone any of this behavior you have to talk to you daughter seeing as she is the only one you really have a say so over. Ask her if she is having sex, if she is, tell her how you feel about it and that she needs to use protection and its important to not be with many people unprotected as to risk infection of STDs. Tell her you are you are disappointed but understand she has feelings as she is 15 and hormonal right now. Other than that, there really isnt anythin you can do unless you lock the girl to the toilet, she’ll find ways of doing things trust me.
There isn’t much you can do now. You really shouldn’t have let her go with them the 2nd time (I’m sure you already know that but I had to say it). The sitter already proved to be untrustworthy last year. I would just call the sitter, tell them how furious you are and that they will NEVER be trusted with your daughter again. And then I would pray to god that your daughter isn’t pregnant so you can cut off contact with these people. Good luck.
Wow. . . that is so sick and crazy. . . who does that sitter think you are???? why dont you tell your daughters father what is going on and see if you can both come up with a solution. . . that lady is definitel irresponsible and vulgar and trashy. . . and careless
DOn’treport her to the cops that’s just stupid, she was being supervised whilst doing it so she wasn’t in danger. She definately should not had gone against your demands but most probably thought seeing as the two 15 year olds had been brought up together that you wouldn’t mind if they just shared a tent cus they must be friends. Talk to the sitter about it and ask her why she let your child drink. Just don’t get the police involved it’s a waste of police time as they were supervised by an adult. Good luck x
You were burned twice; now you know.
Concentrate on your daughter. This should now be between she and you. If these are activities that made her uncomfortable, or if she wanted to participate, you should be advising her, communicating with her, and possibly showing her consequences so she can make healthy choices for herself.
First of all STOP LETTING YOUR DAUGHTER be with them!
Of course I would be furious as to the fact of my 15 year old child drinking, and then SLEEPING WITH A GUY THE SAME AGE. Come on I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 17 if I had the chance to have a sleep over of some sort things would obviously happen. But you cant forget about the drinking, I think it is absolutely horrible to drink especially being a teenager. I will tell you this I used to drink a lil bit to get tipsy with my friends. But since I have een with my current boyfriend for the last 9-10 months he has showed me I DO NOT need to drink to feel good or to have a good time. He is indeed a very good influence on me. Talk to your daughter, really I mean the consequences of drinking, leads to alch posioning, doing things you will later regret & all that. I know she may not want to have a serious talk about these things with you share her your experiences and everything. I think that would mean alot if you share becasue it will let her know you can relate to her. Be her mother but try and be her friend about it. As for the baby sitter DONT LET YOUR CHILD go near her goddamnit if you do not want things like this to happen again. And if she is with the boy make sure you supervise things until you can trust her again. pstt you may think just because it only happens once it doesnt or will not happen again but those chances are horribly wrong. She is a teenager and we do things right now and sometimes dont realize the consequences of our actions, we get introuble, then do it again becausse we think we can get away w/ it.
so what if she was put in the position where something could have happened? Are you going to keep your daughter locked up until she turns 18? Sorry this is harsh but she’s of that age where things are going to happen. It was her choice to go in the tent with this boy and it was her/the boys choice that nothing happened. You grounded her and that’s good. The family she went with told you they were giving her different sleeping arangments then what happened and all you can do about that is tell them you’re disappointed with them. You have a right to be angry with the family but not to the point of exclusion. Your daughted is old enough to make her own desicions when it comes to boys. All you can do with her is give her the sex talk. I personally think you are over reacting and even though your daughted disobeyed the rules (and I agree with the grounding) you should also tell her you’re proud of her for not messing around with the boy, wether she liked him or not.
saying all this I don’t agree with the drinking and this is where I wouldn’t allow my daughter to go with the older girl. But also, it’s a choice of your daughters. She prob didn’t have the liquor poored down her throat and she’s going to have to learn how to deal with such situations as they arise. She had every chance to say no.
No way. Your sitter could be sued for contributing to the delinquency of minors. I would be furious. I would let the sitter know in no uncertain terms that she violated your trust. Also you daughter is old enough to know better. She should have refused. You need to have a serious talk with her.
Mother, you should have learned from the first experience. Why on earth would you permit them to do it again? Good grief!
just cuz shes family it DOESNT make this better. ure right to be furious. . she went against the rules and ure the girls mother. . u have the decision making power, esp if the sitter know that this is something that bothers u. her ulterior motive makes this a dangerous situation for ure girl. u dont want to leave her with a sitter that thinks it would be cute if ure girl and her boy hooked up. . . dont let ure girl stay with her anymore. screw her if shes family. i mean its the ex-husband. . come on.
It is called corrupting the morals of a minor and your adult sitter could go to jail.
i went through something so similar its scary. My daughters aunt from her father’s side kept doing something similar to what your sitter was doing. I went through all the formal stuff. Telling them that i didn’t like her sleeping in the room with other boys. I explained to them my rules for my daughter. I would ground my daughter. Eventually it got to the point where i didn’t know if i could trust my daughter or her aunt, so i told my daughter’s aunt that my daughter would not be able to sleep over and that if she wanted to see my daughter she could visit if i was home. I felt horrible being that they were family but i had to do what was best for my daughter and sleeping in the same room with an 18 year old neighbor was not good. Eventually, her aunt saw that i was serious and stop the bull Sh*t. .
You have to do what is best for your daughter. If you told the sitter how you feel and told your daughter and they continually disobey you then perhaps you should consider if this is the type of person you want your daughter to be around. You have to look at the bigger picture here: teenagers are easily influenced your daughter has someone who is teaching her that its ok to lie and go behind your back to do things that you obviously disagree with. She is putting your daughter in danger and i suggest telling the sitter that if she continues doing what she is doing that she wont be able to see or spend time with your daughter; its horrible especially if your daughter is attached to her but its the best. The sitter may straighten up her act and realize that YOU are her mother and that she MUST follow your authority when it comes to your daughter. YOU are responsible for your daughter not her. Need any more info contact me.
You will have to be very proactive now.
You are correct in that you should not have trusted the sitter a second time.
Allow your daughter to have nothing further to do with this sitter and tell your sitter the same in no uncertain terms.
You only have people’s words for it that nothing happened in the tent – but putting two 15 year olds together is just asking for trouble.
This sitter clearly does not have your family’s best interests at heart and should be banned from your household.
Be more proactive about your daughter’s safety in future or you could live to regret it.
Wooo! i understand why you would be mad. Personally i would confront the sitter, it sounds like shes trying to undermine you. I also wouldn’t let your daughter see her for a while. Tbh i dont think anything wnt on as there was loads of adults there aswell.
Someone told you to report them to the authorities personally I think you should turn yourself in for being an idiot.