I hаνе extreme aspergers And others аrе mean a lot Lіkе i аlѕο hаνе dislexya And hаνе a very hard time reading writeing аnd spelling. Im іn 8th grade аnd еνеrу οn icealats mе frοm thеrе activitys. Thеу usealy ѕау spell ѕο аnd ѕο аnd іf уου gеt іt rіght уου саn hang thеу know i аm аt a 4th grade spelling level. Sο thеу look іn thеrе book аnd ѕау a hυgе lіkе 8 οr 9 letter word. I аlѕο gеt teased bу thе kids fοr asking thе teacher tο change thе light frοm flooresint tο regular. Bесаυѕе іt іѕ flashing аnd driving mе crazy. Thеу аlѕο tease mе bесаυѕе i whеrе special headphones thаt mаkе mе nοt аblе tο hear. I thουght I hаd a friend bυt whеn I hаd a sleepover аt hіѕ house hе hаd 3 οthеr friends thаt found out thаt i kind οf hаνе a night bladder problem аnd hаd drynights bυt thеу leaked аnd kids smelled іt unzipped mу sleeping bag аnd saw mу drynights.Thеn thеу ѕаіd thаt mу friend shouldent hang out wіth a 13 year οld bed wetter аnd mу friend never talked tο mе again аnd hе wаѕ mу οnlу friend аnd thіѕ іѕ imbarissing bυt i kind οf hаνе a hard time makeing friends. Thеn something happened thе next morning I аѕkеd whаt ѕhουld wе dο Thеу ѕаіd i ѕhουld gο jump іn a lake ѕο i dіd аnd fοr ѕο reason thе wеrе laughing whу аrе thеу jokeing іѕ іt bесаυѕе im soaked. I hаνе a mean teacher thаt mаkеѕ mе stay аftеr class іf i dont look аt hеr whеn shes talking i mean come οn nobody looks аt someone whеn thеу аrе talking. Alѕο a kid ѕаіd something lіkе “i wеnt over mу friends house yesterday” And i burst іn tο laughter bυt nο one еlѕе thουght іt wаѕ fυnnу thаt hе wеnt over hіѕ friends house аnd јυѕt starred аt mе. Thats hilarius I thουght hе mυѕt need a bіg ladder
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Welcome to life.
Try going to a sleepaway camp for a short period of time, that way you can have a fresh start and such. Many kids are mean nowadays, so try to ignore them. But I’m a little confused why you would jump in a lake. . . unless I read that wrong. btw, i like your screenname.
What most people do not know is that people with Asbergers are smarter than average, just have problems expressing it. next time some one asks you to spell something, you should say “I will spell it as soon as you spell you are an idiot”
Kids will leave you alone once you stand up for yourself, I know how hard this will be for you,
make a Myspace profile trust me there you’ll get lots of friends
Don’t worry just be confident
Kids can be cruel, just hang in there and you’ll find someone who can accept you the way you are.
lol about going over the friend’s house too, you have a creative way of thinking.
It’s hard for a kid with Asperger’s to fit in and especially in Jr. high and high school. Please make sure your parents have you in a special program at school so you have the time you need to do your studies properly. Your teacher should not be punishing you for having a disability – if that is what is happening when you stay after school.
One thing that can help is to see if you can find another friend with Asperger’s, and they will not likely judge you like Normie kids do. Ask your parents to see if there is some sort of life skills program for Autistic and Asperger kids in your area. These are great places where you can learn new things, make friends who will not tease you. Try not to get to upset when kids tease you because they are stupid and mean for doing so.
Hang in there.
Some kids are very rude when it comes to problems like dyslexia and asperger and many more problems. When they said go jump in a lake they meant it as a rude comment, not actually for you to do it, and the kid said i went over TO my friends house yesterday not over. There´s this kid that used to be in my 5th grade classroom and he´s as mature as a second grader. For show and tell he brings his bionicle and transformers and shows them and explains there purpouse. It is very uncool becuase no other boy in the fith grade has a action figure. whenever he goes out to recess he goes out to the field all by himself and doesen´t even try to make friends. I respect you for trying. I don´t really know if he has a syndrome but it seems like he does. plus hes very emotional. almost all the boys in the class makes fun of him. So what i´d do is stick up to them, tell them off, tell them that there only making fun of you becuase you have problems, and that´s not fair.
People are mean to you for the same reason that they are mean to others. They think it will make them feel and appear to be better than you. They are wrong. It does not work, and because it does not work and they do not realize that fact, they keep doing it. Other people laugh at their cruelty to feel better about themselves (it still doesn’t work) and to be part of “a crowd. ”
My guess is that your teacher wants you to look at her for two reasons: (1) to help you focus / concentrate on what she is saying, and (2) because people usually DO look at someone when he is talking. This is difficult for you to do, but it is considered the polite thing to do. For people who do not have aspergers, NOT looking at the person speaking may mean the listener is bored, rude, ashamed, or scared. If the person talking does not look at the listener, that can mean he is lying or looking for someone else he thinks is more interesting to talk to. This is called “body language” or “non-verbal communication. ” The expression on a person’s face, the position of his body, small movements of his face and body all “communicate. ” This is difficult for you, but true for most people who consciously or unconsciously recognize these signs and what they mean. You will be able to understand others better if you can learn to “read” them by looking at them and noticing these little behaviors.
For example, I could say to you, “I’ve had all I can take from you, smarty pants!” If I have a grin on my face and my eyes are “sparkling” or laugh lines (little lines in the skin beside the eyes which come from smiling many times) are showing, you will understand that I am teasing you in a friendly way. On the other hand, if I don’t smile, my head tilts sideways or bobs forward slightly, my hand is on my hip, my upper lip curls up slightly on one side, and the pitch of my voice is lower than usual, I am displaying (communicating non-verbally) anger, and you will know that I am not joking and may get angrier. These non-verbal “messages” completely change the meaning of the exact same words. Recognizing them lets you know how to respond to what I said (whether you should smile and say something “pretend mean” to me or say nothing and step away from me.
“I went over my friend’s house yesterday” IS very funny — once I stop and think about it. You heard it literally — the literal/exact meaning of the words. Most people are so used to it meaning that he went TO his friend’s house, that they don’t recognize the literal meaning of the words. I didn’t. (I’ll bet after you left, they talked until one of them finally realized what was funny about it, then they all laughed. But “not getting the joke” will make them feel stupid compared to you, which they won’t like, so expect something them to do something mean because they still don’t know that being mean to you won’t make them feel better. Now you know what may happen, so you can smile to yourself (in your mind, so no one else sees it and gets angry all over again) when/if it does happen.
Do practice looking at people when they talk and look for non-verbal communications. You might also try to meet kids who are very good with computers and/or science. They might be good possibilities for new friends who “get” (understand) you. Because you have problems with reading and writing, being good at other means of communicating — talking, listening, and non-verbal communication — will be very helpful to you throughout your life, including in making friends and helping others to understand you and you to understand them.
Reading is fun for some people, but it is ONLY a tool — only one way to give and get information. You can hear and you can speak, so you can learn what’s in a book by listening to a book-on-tape. You can “write” by talking to a computer with voice recognition — it understands what you say and types it — or talking into a tape recorder. Your school must provide these and other devices and methods of learning and taking tests to help you learn. If the school has not given these to you, ask your mother to read what I’ve written and then to request the school provide them. She can use my email address (with my profile on this site) if she has any questions. I worked getting such help for other kids like you and can help if she wants.